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My Baby Sleeps On The Floor: Our Montessori-ish Baby Room

Heston's Room

Let me first qualify this post by saying, I know nothing about babies.  Really.  I’ve never been a baby person, nor have I spent any substantial time with them.  We’re totally winging it over here.

We didn’t set out to be all Montessori-ish in our approach to raising Heston, but the more we engage with this life-learning method, the more I’m a convert.  Thus, our baby sleeps on the floor.

We originally bought a two bedroom house (albeit a tiny one) because we envisioned having a guest/baby’s room (and in that order).  I remember being pretty self-righteous and saying things like “Elch, why in the world do people dedicate an entire room to ‘kid-stuff’?!”  I said it before, but it’s worth mentioning again, I know nothing.

Our approach to the monkey’s sleeping situation was not guided by any particular method, it was simply that we couldn’t decide on a crib.  Between cost, design and our tiny space, I remember throwing my hands up in frustration and saying, “Why do we even need a crib?!” I was thinking about having just a day bed so that my mother (and other guests) could have an actual bed to sleep in.  But again cost, design, and space were not intersecting.  And I felt like I had time to decide since I knew he’d be sharing our room for the first part of his life.

I wasn’t sure how we would establish our family sleeping situation; I didn’t even know how I felt about it other than the extreme stereotypes represented in RomComs everywhere: Hippy-Dippy Family Beds whilst shunning vaccinations vs. ice-cold, detached robot parents who farm our raising their kids to a staff.  Surely there were more options than this?!  I implored the same approach we had with Heston’s impending arrival: we would just figure it out.  We started by RENTING the most beautiful (and functional) bassinet, but my little guy didn’t do much sleeping in it (much to my disappointment.)  And really, if I could have had my way, I think I would have preferred co-sleeping with H until he was in college old enough. But by 7 months when we knew H could lay on his back without choking (and sort of roll over) we knew it was time to fish or cut bait.  I felt like I had this window to transition him and this was it.  Armed with some research and my sleep bible, we put Heston on a mattress on the floor.

H Room

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The Day Is Near

Waiting

How do you describe the day before you know you’ll meet your child?  I am being induced tomorrow.  My mom texted me today and said that today feels different for her; for me it feels the same as the last 39 1/2 weeks — completely normal and completely surreal.

My last post at 34 weeks seems like yesterday and 100 years ago.  Maybe this is the entirety of being/becoming a parent: a constant paradox.

Ironically, since my shingles has cleared up, I’ve never felt better.  Really, these last 2 weeks in particular have been the best of my entire pregnancy.  Don’t get me wrong, my pelvis is about to completely fall apart and I walk like a 2,000 year old person, but mentally I’m finally there.  I’m finally ready to say: #letsdothis!

When I went in for my 37 week check up the doc told me, much to my surprise that I was 2cm dilated and 70% effaced.  The adrenaline kicked in.  At my 38 week check up I was 3cm and 80% effaced.  The adrenaline really kicked in and I thought for sure I would be meeting my monkey over Memorial Day Weekend.  So last Friday at my 39 week appointment I wasn’t sure what to expect; however, my progress has stalled and I’m still the same (3 & 80).

The emotion of it all manifested at the 37 week check up.  My sis came over that weekend and helped us set up the guest room baby’s room.  She and I and B nearly all lost it a few times, but especially during another Target run when I realized that I lost my mucus plug.  It was “gettin’ real in the whole foods parkin’ lot” if you know what I mean.  But we’ve all had time to settle a bit and now I just feel calm — a really weird calm.

I feel really fortunate to have gotten a little staycation weekend with the hubs over Memorial Day weekend.  We thought for sure it was our last together as a family of two so we made the most of it.  We watched like 5 movies (even went to the theater for one of them!) and cleaned the house, played cards, cooked almost all our meals at home together, limited phone calls, slept a lot; it was magic.  Then nothing.  I was all geared up — or rather zen-ed out — and then, nothing.

So I’ve tried to keep that level of internal calm for nearly another two weeks.  I’ve tried to be present to every opportunity — including junky tv, a random breakfast date, “long” walks, watching B cook for me, listening to music and meditations, and just sitting in the quiet of the house staring at my budding lemon tree.  I know that there will never be a time like this again.  As melodramatic and cliche as it sounds, I know life will never be the same again.

But I am ready.  I am ready for this new journey; a chance for renewed self-discovery and connection with my husband and the world.  And mostly, I’m ready to get this squirmy creature out of my body so I can squish it pieces!

Wish me luck!

How To Move Succesfully

Moving Tips

As I said earlier, we really had a super-successful move into our new little house.  Not only is this because we hired the best movers ever (3-Men Movers), but I think it’s because I have a little OCD had my act together and I’ve learned a few things in the 10+ times that I’ve moved.

So here are my 11 Best Moving Tips for an efficient and hassle-free move:

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We’re In

Home Sweet Home

How has it been nearly 3 weeks since we moved?! I’ve had about 10 blog posts running in my head, but actually sitting down and writing it out (with photos!) is a different story.  Needless to say, we’re in our new house.  It wasn’t finished before we called the movers, but sometimes, you just gotta make things happen.

Here’s how it all went down…

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Living Small In A Big State

I can’t believe that I am once again a homeowner.

New Home

Once we decided to start looking, things happened very fast.  And one of the reasons we landed on this little house was that it was “move-in ready.”  Well.  We can’t do anything without putting our own stamp on it; and now we’ve found ourselves knee deep into a remodel.  We’ve got about another 3-4 weeks of construction because the hubs is of course doing all the work himself, after hours and on the weekends.  He’s pretty much Superman.

I can’t say that I was excited for this next little adventure, but I’m coming around.  I really just felt like we didn’t have many good options (she says snarky-like from her cushy, middle-class life).  And clearly I have some baggage from the last housing crisis.  I was (and still am) nervous about owning again…especially since Houston is on quite the housing high.  And I’m VERY SAD about leaving our current abode.  We LOVE living in this little flat so much: the neighborhood, our amazing landlords, the actual space.

But life must move forward.  And the next chapter is here.  And with each wall that comes down(!), I get more and more excited about this becoming our home.

Here’s a little photo tour:

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An Overdue Apartment Update

The hubs and I recently had ourselves a little staycation.  And as I’ve said a million times before, spring is the only season I’ll openly advocate for everyone to move here.  We thought we might head to Austin or even catch a last minute travel deal to Vegas, but why go somewhere else when it is the perfect time to hang out in the 4th largest city in the country.  Believe me, come August, I’ll be begging for strangers to take me in!

During this week of heavenly respite, we made a pact to treat our town as if we were seeing it with fresh eyes and go to places we wouldn’t normally go (i.e. Try New Restaurants Lazy!)  And eat we did!  We also visited the zoo, went shopping, drove down streets we don’t normally take, grilled outside, watched foreign films… treated it like it was all new…  from the comfort of our own home.  And there will be updates coming of our fun Houston adventures.  But we also took advantage of the free time to clean and organize our home.  (Don’t worry it’s a disaster again already.)  The hubs worked on a new (and amazing!) furniture project and I assessed our art situation and tried to remedy it myself (not happening any time soon!).  So although we are about to install a new major piece of furniture, I figured I’m always going to “soon get another piece of furniture”… thus, just take the picture already!  So here’s a little snapshot of the new arrangement.  But to see the full story, go here or click on Apartment Living up top there.

Apartment Update

Over on that other page, I’ve included links to my DIY hanging pendant, our handmade coffee table, an ikea hack, and a few other things! 

weekend wondering

Weekend Wondering

It doesn’t seem that I’ve had my camera (or phone) close at hand since our return.  (Maybe it’s because my virtual facial isn’t so pretty to watch.)  But the long weekend was lovely, even though the hubs did have to go into to work on Friday.  We took the extra days as opportunity to finally get this place we call home, a little more settled.  We re-arranged (again!) and I think this time it will stick…for a while at least.  I’m excited about a new piece of furniture we have designed and hope it turns out as good as it looks in my mind’s eye.

We also spent some time grilling like all 4th of July revelers should.  The hubs grilled up some of his famous beer-can chicken.  He was so glad to finally have the time to do it.  It’s been at least 3+ years since we last defiled a bird with a can…and it was delicious.

And quite a bit of the weekend was spent indoors enjoying the cold AC: binge watching netflix, internet researching, and more purging of drawers and boxes.  I’ve set myself a goal of the end of this month to be done with all this remodel/purge business.  And now I’ve got quite the task ahead of me.

The long weekend was also spent in contemplation as we have life decisions to make.  As it’s clear that I’m still adjusting to my new life/schedule I’m trying to figure out what works best for me right now.  And since I’m an insane people-pleaser it’s tough for me to feel like I’m letting someone down by choosing one thing over another.  But that’s all part of growing up and growing into the person I want to be.

this is my crazy

Have I ever mentioned that I’m a crazy person?  It’s obvious to some (ok, most) but it is acutely evidenced when I decide to do things like completely rearrange my house two days before I leave for a 10-day vacation.  And when I say completely rearrange, I mean, it looks like we just moved in but forgot to pack our stuff in boxes.  Our shit is everywhere!

I’m slowly trying to make sense of it all, but we are both in a purging mood.  This time it also includes furniture.  I think we are going to finally go down to one couch.  I mean, who really needs to two couches in a 660 sq ft apartment?!  (Well, it’s not out the door yet!) But we are also purging clothes, our personal archives, and tons of office and craft architecture school stuff.  What really needs to be on the chopping block though is our 4+  rubbermaids of camping/backpacking/climbing gear.  We haven’t been camping (sans RV) in nearly 4 years now!  (This should be rectified as soon as possible indeed!)

But part of our commitment to “be here now” and to stop living like we’re always in transition is to well… be here now.  And while we’re in Texas, I guess I don’t need to own THREE down coats.  *insert forehead slap*  Yes, three.  We also don’t want to change out our old “stuff” for just new(er) stuff.  So, we’re trying to make what we have work, but also shed a few things that are weighing us down.  Especially since this new living arrangement is pretty indefinite (for the first time ever!)

So, as we try to rebuild Rome around here, I’m having to constantly remind myself (again) that it is never built in a day… and stuff is just stuff.

Rearrange

(This is just 4 of about 400 different layouts we tried on paper.  And how it’s all currently settled… didn’t even make it onto a single one of our paper house dolls!)

weekend scene

It was a pretty uneventful weekend around these parts as it was cold and rainy for most of the weekend.  It may as well have been the northwest.  But it afforded us the opportunity to do some serious sleeping-in and lounging in our “cookie-pants”.  But never-the-less, I did fit in some cleaning and beginning-of-the-year organizing…as well as a few movies, and a few new year’s resolutions goals.  We are enjoying one more week of the hubs’ freedom as school doesn’t resume until next Monday! (Lucky me, we’ll be together all week!)

JAN WEEKEND